Oh, yes, I know. A man.
Probably you’ve heard many times of men who tell their wives/partners that they look better without makeup and they don’t need all that ‘muck’ on their face to look beautiful for them.
The sad part about it is that there are thousands of women who actually believe this rubbish.
But why is it that these men think this way, or do they really?
All or most normal men, married or otherwise, look and even ogle a beautiful woman as she walks down the street or appears in a glossy or on TV.
The first time most, if not all, men meet and are attracted to their eventual wives, partners or girl friends it is more than likely that the ladies were wearing makeup.
The majority of men who leave and abandon their partners later on in life, do so for a younger model who is still aware of her sexuality and actually goes out into the world WEARING MAKEUP.
You have to ask yourself, why women put up with being tied down to a control freak who is trying to persuade them that their ‘natural look’ satisfies them. It can only lead to frustration and resentment.
OK, so now lets get down to the nitty gritty
- Has your man told you look better without all that goo on your face?
- If so, do you believe him?
- Has your sex life deteriorated over the years?
- Does your man ever look at other women with a glint in his eye?
- Do you have any self esteem?
- Do you want to be more self aware and enjoy your sexuality?
Answer any of the above questions with a yes and you need to seriously re-think your lifestyle.
First of all. We are not advocating group divorce. All we are saying is that you should:-
- Take charge of your own life
- Start living, it’s never too late
- Take stock of your body and face
- Buy the latest beauty and fashion magazines.
Go to your nearest store and browse the cosmetic department. Don’t be intimidated by those well made up sales girls. They really do need you more than you need them. And some of them can be very very helpful.
Take the plunge and buy some eye makeup. Even get the sales girl to give you a make over. It’s usually cost free and you don’t have to buy if you don’t want to, but you will come away with lots of useful tips and advice.
My idea for a soft eye makeup look would be beige, taupe or brown eye shadow swept over the entire lid, followed by a slightly darker shade in the crease and perhaps a smudge carefully put around the outer edge of the eyes as close to the lashes as possible.
This topped off by a lick of brown moisturizing mascara.
Mustn’t forget the all important eyebrows. They can really make a huge difference to the whole face.
If you don’t go mad and start lathering your face with heavy foundations and hard eye makeup, the man in your life should hardly notice the difference but he will think to himself that you look rather nice.
Who knows it could spark off your relationship once more and bring back the old zazz.
how about the fact that people start to feel less attracted to one another seeing each other day in day out………is your ps3 that great as the first time you got it. How bout eating your fave meal 3 times a day for 3 weeks, doesn’t taste that nice anymore. It has nothing to do with makeup. Men understand by lookijng at the pictures the gross and horrifying effects of long term make up use, of all those chemicals on and off, the skin loses its firmness, its dries up, its gets all bumps and reeks (not in the teerms of smell).
Men aren’t out to tell women this so that women can suffer, they’re out to help women understand how beautiful they think they are instead of many simple minded women convincing themselves they are ugly by comparing themselves to the caked up, photoshopped to death “stars” they see.
Men care, women just would rather prefer not to think so because its something to discuss with girlfriends. Riddle me this, why do women feel less like women without makeup and yet men don’t feel less like men without makeup?
Sexy is the way a women carries herself, not a sticking out g-string string from her butt. Sexy is a women who has the onfidnce to not wear make-up ad a women who doesn’t justify make-up use by saying it “enhances” their looks. Thats a fools paradise. Make-up hides, conceals and changes a women so that every morning when she looks at herself she feels unworthy to go out into the world without hiding some part of her.
Women, beautiful, lovely women, your friends will not judge you negatively if you go out without makeup. They will respect you, look up to you, adore you because you can stand up for not ruining your beauty in the short term and oh the horrendous effects of constant make up use, just look at the pcs of celebs. I assure you they had nice skin before. Try not to do that to yourself, you’re better than that. Putting make up on for confidence is the same as saying “I take steroids because it makes me perform better”. Maybe….but it doesnt make you any better, does it?
Seeing each other day in day out can either kill a relationship or promote deep feelings of love, trust, commitment.
At the end of the day its not all about looks and lust, which don’t last, but feelings.
Funny article. Men say that ridiculous crap about make-up, etc. because makeup takes a long time to put on, so they’re inconvenienced. It gets on their clothes. It tastes funny when you kiss them, etc. Yes, they look at the hot made up women on TV and don’t even understand really the preposterousness of saying you would look better without all that “goop” The only reason they care about the goop is because of how it affects them!
Besides, I have a theory. Once you’re with a guy he pretty much stops noticing your looks unless they change in a negative way. You really do look good enough for him. He’s into the looks of new women. You’re the old cow. So as long as you look f-able, you’re okay. Fancy up, change your hair do, whatever. Still same old you, he doesn’t notice. Gain a lot of weight, develop a horrible rash, he notices that because you will kill his boner. LOL.
So yes. You can’t compete with movie stars or even new hot women for your man’s attention. The only thing you can do is look the best you can for you and forget about those other chicks. Unless you can transform yourself into a much hotter model and then he’ll still get used to you and look at other chicks. Men will ALWAYS desire other women physically even if he loves you to death. That is their nature. Your job is to not look any worse so you can at least serve as a doable substitute.
oh gosh elle! you are so so SO right! it’s like, a man will never feel content enough with his wife, will he? even if she is miss angie jolie! or marilyn monroe. they get bored very very easily. what’s the cure for that? maybe check out new guys everytime the man checks out new women, right? and talk about handsome stars, ogle them and all that whenever they start doing his with the pretty MAKEUP stars.
maybe that’s the only cure i could think of for now
we women get bored as well, but we try our best to take care of our man’s feelings. but men? they don’t have the decency to at least not check out other women or admire other women in front of us. so try doing that to them and see how they will feel. really how could you be so careless about someone you supposedly care so much about?
bullshit
i have seen women without makeup that look much hotter than those with makeup at university and I definitely prefer the ones without makeup.
makeup = covering up your face = lying and I hate people lying including myself when i have no choice but to lie even when it’s a white lie.
Agreed. Every man I’ve ever met who claimed to prefer natural beauty has always chased the unnatural. They say they prefer someone who doesn’t wear makeup, or spend countless hours working on their appearance via clothes hair skincare, etc. but when I’ve observed these men, they always get instant wood when looking at the women who take much time for those things. There’s only been one man who truly did find natural women beautiful. This preference was obvious across the board, when we went out watched tv, etc. But even he admitted that it was more about the “natural look”, and he admitted that natural makeup can enhance a woman to look more healthy and vital – which is what he liked in a woman.
There are some really brilliant men out there; truly enlightened and self aware but there are also a lot of men who lack critical thinking skills. They lack the ability to truly look at their selves and their behavior objectively, and then come up with a conclusion. For, if they could do this, they’d see the hypocrisy they present on this issue of make up.
Elle and Housewife – I admire your honesty. I get so sick of hearing the washed up fuzziness of what we’re supposed to think and feel about male behavior. Society looks down on women who have an issue with these facts of life. Society says that these things are only natural and we should deal with it. The problem is, these behaviors are devastating to a relationship: men and women. Male behavior is devastating to men because they do not take care of their women’s emotional needs while making her feel worthless. Male behavior is devastating to women because they are neglected and become resentful; this resentment leads to borderline rage that boils under the surface of skin day and night.
But society says just accept it and be glad he’s not cheating – it’s natural and this behavior will never stop. It’s true, I guess, but it’s no wonder that women are always angry with their men.